I love the concept of “Upgrading your life” and putting yourself first. How much time do we really devote to making ourselves happy? I love this post because it supports my efforts and decisions to do more of what makes me happy and to devote time to make it happen. Put yourself first. It isn’t necessarily selfish, but necessary.
I have never really been one to take elaborate vacations. I do not like to fly (turbulence scares me to death as well as take off and landing), vacations are expensive, and it’s a pain to make arrangements for my children (actually I only have one left at home now).
I have recently begun to do more of what makes me happy and take more time for myself (I’m not getting any younger). I have taken day trips and weekend trips and pampered myself when possible.
I am expanding my horizons and determined to actually take “a real” vacation next year. I have decided on Negril, Jamaica. I have specifically chosen the Rockhouse Hotel in Negril, Jamaica. The reviews and pictures are beautiful.
I will wake to yoga on the beach and dine on exquisite cuisine (I love Jamaican food!). I will lie on the beach and be pampered with massages and other spa services. I cannot wait! I deserve it!
“Jamaica’s Rockhouse hotel is the ultimate exotic escape. With brilliant sunsets, chic décor and credo of brotherhood and goodwill, it’s the total package.”
Gourmet Traveler” Caribbean Dream”
WORLD TRAVEL AWARDS – “CARIBBEAN’S LEADING BOUTIQUE HOTEL”
At the World Travel Awards Gala Ceremony held in October 2011, Rockhouse Hotel won “Caribbean’s Leading Boutique Hotel” beating out an impressive list of nominees including Cap Juluca and Malliouhana from Anguilla, The Caves and Golden Eye from Jamaica, Parrot Cay and Point Grace from Turks & Caicos, and Horned Dorset Primavera from Puerto Rico. Dubbed “the Oscars of the tourism industry” the World Travel Awards were established in 1993 and reflect the votes of thousands of travel professionals from over 200 countries around the world. This award for Rockhouse follows six years of consecutive nominations in this category.
Rockhouse is a boutique hotel stretching across the cliffs of Pristine Cove. Nestled amongst eight acres of tropical lush gardens, thatched roofed villas are perched on the water’s edge. Guests swim in the sixty foot horizon pool or take the stairs carved into the rock down to the cove for snorkeling on the reef.
Facilities include the hotel’s two award winning restaurants led by Executive Chef Kevin Broderick, Jamaica Food Awards repeat “Chef of the Year” 2011 & 2010. A newly constructed Spa has a philosophy that is a simple, holistic approach to well-being, health and happiness. Spa treatments are undertaken “on-the-rocks” in the cliff-edge Massage Cabana or at the eight room garden spa. Yoga classes are offered daily overlooking the sea.
Consistently ranked one of the top resorts in the Caribbean, in addition to winning Caribbean’s Leading Boutique Hotel at the 2011 World Travel Awards, the Rockhouse is included in Travel + Leisure’s August 2011 “World’s Best Awards” and Conde Nast Traveler’s November 2011 Readers Choice list of the “Best in the World”. Patricia Schults names Rockhouse as one of the “1000 Places to See Before You Die” in her New York Times Best Selling Book, and Kay Showker features Rockhouse in her book “The 100 Best Resorts in the Caribbean.” Rockhouse is a member of Design Hotels, an international lifestyle brand synonymous with distinctive architecture and interior design, balanced with functionality and exceptional service.
The hotel is located on the cliffs, two and a half miles west of Negril town on Negril’s West End Road. The hotel is sited on the western most point of Jamaica – the best spot for sunsets. The closest major international airport is Montego Bay, just over an hour away.
The objective of the hotel is to responsibly and sustainably balance the interests of all the parties: giving the guests an amazing boutique hotel vacation, making our team partners in its success, taking care of the environment (Green Globe Certified), while putting back into the community through the Rockhouse Foundation which has invested over US$1 million in local public schools and libraries.
“JAMAICA IS ONE OF MY FAVORITE DESTINATIONS IN THE WORLD AND THE ROCKHOUSE IS ONE OF MY ABSOLUTE FAVORITE HOTELS. WHEN YOU GO THERE YOU HAVE THIS INCREDIBLE, CLIFF TOP EXPERIENCE. THIS IS THE KIND OF PLACE THAT YOU TAKE YOUR SHOES OFF AS SOON AS YOU WALK IN AND NEVER PUT THEM BACK ON. THIS IS DEFINITELY ONE OF THOSE GREAT GEMS. BUT WHETHER YOU’RE TAKING A DIP IN THE GREAT INFINITY POOL OR YOU’RE WATCHING THE STUNNING SUNSETS WITH A RED STRIPE IN HAND–THIS IS A PLACE I WOULD RECOMMEND TO ANYONE.”INTERVIEW WITH TRAVEL + LEISURE’S NILOU MOTAMED ON NBC’S THE TODAY SHOW
CONDE NAST TRAVELLER, “WINTER SUN SPECIAL – JAMAICA”
“Close to Negril, Pristine Cove is quite an address to live up to, but Rockhouse Hotel fuses sensitively with the rocky landscape.”
SHERMAN’S TRAVEL MAGAZINE “TOP 10 CARIBBEAN ISLANDS FOR 2010: JAMAICA”
“Offering one of the best lodging deals in the Caribbean, Negril’s Rockhouse presents 34 thatch-roofed units and a new spa in a terrific cliffside setting.”
SKYWRITINGS MAGAZINE, AIR JAMAICA’S INFLIGHT MAGAZINE
“Look beyond the great design, the glorious sunset view, the charming service and cleansing sea breeze… you’ll see the world in a better light and you’ll find one of Jamaica’s most relaxed and authentic experiences.”
THE GUARDIAN UK, “ON THE OUTSIDE”
“Relaxed and insanely chilled I finally understood why nothing is a problem… with reggae playing in the background whilst the ocean laps against the rocks below, the Rockhouse is as unpretentious as you could wish a place to be.”
1. We get treated in life the way we teach others to treat us
Yes, you heard me. Don’t you just love to play the victim card? Don’t you just love to blame others for how they are treating you, for how they are making you feel? And here I am referring to those people who feel victimized and mistreated by those around them, who can’t accept the fact that they are the ones responsible for what is happening to them, for how others are treating them, At one point in your life, you allowed them to mistreat you, and little by little you got into the mess you are right now. Respect and love yourself and others will do the same.
2. There are no mistakes, only lessons we need to master
The idea is for us to learn from everything and everyone, of course, if you want to, and if you don’t, well, your life will look at 40’s the same way it did when you were 20 and at 60’s the way it looked when you were 40, and so on.
3. Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself
A lot of people think that the moment they decide to forgive somebody who once hurt them, the person who receives the forgiveness is the only one who will benefit from this kind gesture, but that’s not the case. I can tell you that the person who will benefit the most is the person who does the forgiving. Holding onto anger and resentment can do you no good; it’s like having a clenched fist 24/7.
4. Resistance to what is will eventually weaken and destroy you
We’re resisting change, we’re resisting our problems, resisting the weather, resisting our friends and family, resisting our responsibilities, our job, our boss… our lives. There are so many things we are resisting, not realizing that resistance will only make things worse. Carl Jung talks about this, warning us that what we resist not only will persist but will also grow in size.
5. Life is all about the journey and less about the destination
A lot of times we get so caught up in what we want to achieve, that perfect picture, that end result, that we forget to live and to really enjoy life, to enjoy this journey that is called life. Now, you may want to take a deep cleansing breath, and allow yourself to be present in everything you do; allow yourself to enjoy each second of your life; to observe the world around you; to observe the people that are present in your life and the beauty that is present within you and all around you, life in general.
6. People deserve a second chance
The moment you forgive somebody, chances are that you will also give them a second chance, a chance to be near you, without trying to remind them of what they did to you, treating them not as they are, or as they once were, but rather as you want them to be. By doing this, you are also allowing them to grow and to become better and better every day. Your ego might tell you to “let these people go” but what does your heart tell you? We are all humans, we all make mistakes, and we all deserve a second chance, and why not, maybe a third and a forth, a sixth and a seventh…
7. If you don’t believe in yourself, nobody will
Don’t expect others to see gold where you can only see dust. If you don’t believe in yourself, if you don’t believe that you are a capable, a worthy human being, chances are that nobody will. You will act on that belief and people will treat you based on what you think about yourself, based on how you treat yourself and based on how you act and behave in the world.
8. Our attitude toward life will eventually determine life’s attitude toward us
If you think life is unfair, that bad things always happen to you, changes are that life will treat you unfairly, and you will always have many reasons to complain about, while on the other hand, if you think life is a gift, a gift for you to enjoy, not to keep, that wonderful things always happen to you, that wonderful people are being drawn to you, life will give you all of those things and even more. Just how there is a law of gravity, there is also a law of attraction, and based on this law, you attract in your life that which you think about all day long, you attract that which you are, because you see, like attracts like.
9. If you love yourself, chances are that others will love you also
It’s all about self love, it all starts with self love. If you don’t have love for yourself, how can you expect to get it from somebody else? Love yourself and others will love you also.
10. The world has plenty of information but not enough inspiration
If you think about it, now with the technological revolution, we get access to so much information. Let’s take for example a tiny chip. How much information can you store on it? Isn’t it incredible? We have more information than ever… but when it comes to inspiration (in- spirit) I would say that we have a deficit. We focus too much on the outside and not enough on the inside. We can’t seem to understand that it all starts from within. If the inside is a mess, the outside will also be a mess. Listen to your heart, listen to your intuition and know that: “The only real valuable thing is intuition.” Albert Einstein
11. The world won’t change if you don’t change
You hear people all the time complaining about how crazy the world is and how they want it to change, but if you tell them to make the first step…: “What? Me? Do you think there is something wrong with me? I am perfect, there is nothing I need to change. It’s these crazy people that need to change, not me. They are the ones who are destroying us all, not me… Those bastards!” You see, the outside world is a reflection of who we all are on the inside, and all this madness that is taking place around us, is a result of our collective consciousness, and unfortunately it’s a very polluted consciousness. It’s not just them, it’s us, us all. If we want the world to change, we have to start with ourselves, and trust me, there is something wrong with many of us. With you, with me, with he and she…
12. Loneliness is different from solitude
There is a difference between being lonely and being in solitude. When you are in solitude, you take advantage of it to get in touch with you inner self, to meditate and to quite you mind, and that constant need to be around others in order for you to no longer feel lonely, will disappear. Wayne Dyer talk about this in such a wonderful way, saying that we can never be lonely if we like the person we’re alone with. If you like yourself, if you have no problem with your own person, if you have accepted yourself completely, you will be content with having some quiet time, away from all the noise. You will feel happy when alone and also when surrounded by other people.
13. The more we express our gratitude, the more things we will have to be grateful for
The law of attraction works in all that is good and also in all that is bad, and it’s only up to us whether we choose to focus our attention on the negative or on the positive. Focus your attention on the many great things you have and you are grateful for, and you will see that the more you do that, the more reasons you will have to express your gratitude for.
14. Patience is a virtue
In order for things to happen, in order for anything to happen, we need to be patient. We first plant the seed of greatness and then we wait for it to grow, we allow it to grow; we take care of it and we protect it. Great things take time and we need to learn how to give time, time.
15. Courage is not the absence of fear
Fear, that crazy fear who won’t allow us to move forward, who won’t allow us to grow and transform our lives and of those around us will always be present in our lives. Even though many of us know that fear does not exist and that fear is only in our mind, we choose to be paralyzed by it and we choose to allow it to control our lives, our dreams, our goals and the level of our happiness. Fear will be present whenever you want to stretch, whenever you want to get out of your comfort zone and whenever you want to do more, be more, have more. What we need to do is look beyond it, and to always be aware of the fact that most of the things we fear never happen, because FEAR is nothing more than False Expectation Appearing Real.
Have you ever noticed that some people are just miserable and unhappy all the time? How much energy does it take to be miserable all the time? Do you avoid some people because they just bring you down with their pessimistic attitude? Stress and unhappiness can manifest itself physically, so why not be optimistic and happy about life? Happiness is a choice. I choose to be happy.
Huffingtonpost presented an article today on this very subject:
Practicing positive character traits like optimism, curiosity and humor could boost your well-being, a new study suggests.
A study published in the Journal of Happiness Studies shows that when you purposely train a positive character trait, it is linked with a higher reportage of well-being, evidenced by a being in a good mood or being cheerful more often.
The study included 178 adults, who were split up into three groups. The first group was told to practice character traits of curiosity, optimism, gratitude, humor and enthusiasm, while the second group was told to practice creativity, kindness, foresight, appreciating beauty and love of learning. The third group wasn’t told to practice any character traits.
The study participants practiced their assigned traits by doing things like writing thank-you cards to people to practice gratitude, or by recognizing a beautiful object or situation in order to train appreciation for beauty.
Life satisfaction was highest among the first group, though both the first and second groups did experience an increase in well-being, researchers found.
Recently, an AARP study of more than 4,000 adults showed that health, relationships, pleasures and accomplishment are some of the biggest factors in happiness.
Happiness is the ultimate gift.
Imagine waking up every morning, full of energy, excitement and enthusiasm for your life. You have a spring in your step and a knowing that you are living the life that feels true for you. You see meaning and purpose in what you are doing and who you are being.
Sounds like a great place to be, doesn’t it?
It’s a place where I would love to be on a consistent basis, however the reality or truth is that I am not always feeling this way. 😦
Joseph Campbell has an inspiring quote which I would love to share with you ~
“If you follow your bliss, you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while, waiting for you, and the life that you ought to be living is the one you are living. When you can see that, you begin to meet people…
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